For three and a half years, I worked for a boss who had zero experience in the department he managed. He was the "good old boy" type who got ahead by being a white male who kissed his boss's ass (and, likely, other parts). He had no interview process for his role (he was an internal promotion from an unrelated department), no accomplishments of his own to claim (although he had no problem taking credit for others' hard work), and zero qualifications. I imagine his boss's thought process went something like this: "He was a (novice) wedding photographer in college, so I guess he's qualified to run marketing for a $200 million/year company."
It was a mystery to most in the organization as to why he held a directorship in the first place with so little management experience, but it was especially infuriating for someone (me) with over a decade in marketing to be managed by a man who had read "Marketing for Dummies" (this was actually on his office bookshelf). After being asked to explain "how SEO works" for the millionth time, I started having the following thoughts:
- Is it technically murder if your boss is an idiot?
- For every year I work here, how much of my soul becomes the property of Satan?
- When in the day is it too early to drink?
- Why? WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY WHYWHYWHWYHWYYWHWYWHWYWHWYWWYHYYYY
It might not have been so bad if the organization treated its employees better, but when the most talented people started dropping like flies, I knew I needed an exit plan. Let me tell you: quitting was the best decision I made in a very, very long time. I now run my own business from the comfort of beaches and fun cities all over the world, work with amazing people doing what I love, spend more time with my family and friends, and am healthier mentally and physically.
But it wasn't an easy decision for me. My career has always been my top priority, so leaving a job where I could expect semi-regular promotions, steady pay, and health insurance was tough. I felt a lot of guilt for spending so much mental energy anguishing about my insignificant first world problems. What's a crappy boss compared to global warming or poverty? Hitting even closer to home was the fact that many of my close friends and family would have killed to have my job, or at least the salary. Leaving the team you built behind to fend for themselves in a terrible organizational culture is difficult. I felt guilty and selfish. In other words: there were plenty of reasons to stay put and play it safe like my mom, like most of my friends, and like society wants.
But if the "safe" option makes you increasingly angry and depressed, disrupts your family life, and causes you to lose sight of what's important to you, is it the best option? It's simply not.
It may seem glamorous to work from the beach, cocktail in hand. That's it -- that's the entire thought.
It IS glamorous to work from the beach with a cocktail. Damn glamorous. It's the motherfucking DREAM. As in, quit your damn job right now, move to Asia (or Europe or Africa or South America or the Antarctic), and work from your favorite location doing the Internet version of whatever you do now. Living your life in a soul-sucking cubicle working for "the man" is THE WORST and doing your best work from a beach cabana for good people is THE BEST.
Beachside laptop capitalism is the closest thing to revolution we can afford while still paying off our student loans.
These large corporations we work for don't look out for us. They care about their bottom lines -- legal personhood has done nothing to make them pollute the environment less or treat their employees better. Corporations spend millions making us work longer hours for bizarre perks like free pizza and ice cream socials. Meanwhile, our corporate overlords are engaging in money laundering and corruption and paying themselves huge bonuses while laying off workers. Unless you are good at playing the game, don't care about the color of your soul, and truly derive enjoyment from the grind, the corporate world likely isn't the happiest place for you. If you are privileged enough to have marketable skills and/or certifications and/or degrees, you can likely work anywhere in the world from your laptop for good people if you make a solid plan and take the risk.
As a Type A over-thinker, I knew all of this and still couldn't simply quit. I knew that my job was keeping me from being the best version of myself, but I wasn't sure how to disentangle myself from it. So I did what I do whenever I'm seeking answers: I made a reading list.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, continue reading for my list of six books to help you quit your job and find the happiest place for you.
The Reading List
- When to Jump: If the Job You Have Isn't the Life You Want by Mike Lewis: How do you know when to quit your job to follow your true calling? Mike Lewis attempts to answer this question through his personal experience and illustrative interviews with forty others who have made the jump from "job" to "passion project." Lewis leaves his corporate world to become a professional squash player, but he puts great thought into why, how, and, most importantly, when. Check out this book for a solid introduction to planning your own departure and firsthand advice from those who have done it.
- Women at Work: Interviews from The Paris Review: Sometimes we need powerful role models who have blazed their own paths to inspire us down our own. This is not a how-to guide but a wonderful place to find motivation and advice from successful writers, many of whom took risks and broke societal norms for their careers. Coming from different socioeconomic backgrounds, educations, and geographies, each interview offers a new perspective on how to grow a writing career, unique writing practices, and how to face adversity. For the aspiring writer or anyone hoping to find fulfillment in a career, this book may offer the enouragement you need to blaze your own path.
- The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday: In this era of smart phones and "always on message" social media, knowing how much abuse to take from a boss or a job outside of the 9-to-5 workday can be difficult. (How many of you feel the need to respond when your boss texts at 1 a.m., for example?) At what point does "path to promotion" cross into unhealthy territory? That was the question I sought to answer while reading this book. Important as it is to develop grit, we sometimes need guidance to know when to transform adversity into opportunity vs. when to walk away. Holiday provides biographical snapshots of historical figures who faced extremely tough obstacles and triumphed. Inspiring and packed with advice, this book is a useful read any time you feel like your back is to the wall and your options are limited.
- Letters from a Stoic by Seneca: Speaking of Ryan Holiday, this book has shown up on several of his recommended reading lists, as well as lists by Tim Ferriss and others of that ilk. This tome took me almost six months to digest. Organized as a series of letters, each one on a different topic, Seneca covers topics as diverse as materialism to enduring hardships. If you want to spend time thinking about what you just read, as I did, I suggest reading this slowly, perhaps one letter a day. The advice is particularly useful during periods of transition or potential scarcity. My favorite quote: "'Zeno said this.' And what have you said? 'Cleanthes said that.' What have you said? How much longer are you going to serve under others? Assume authority over yourself and utter something that may be handed down to posterity. Produce something from your own resources." This is a classic read that will likely come in handy again and again.
- When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing by Daniel Pink: How does timing in business, economics, biology, and more impact results? Daniel Pink explores patterns of success to uncover rules you can apply to your own life to make better-timed decisions. This is a good one if you want to quit today, but your gut tells you to wait until you've crossed a financial or other hurdle. Your gut may not be wrong. This book can help you plan accordingly.
- The Circle by Dave Eggers: Ok, I technically read this one after I quit, but I wish I had found it sooner! This is a must-read before taking that job at Amazon or Facebook. It also started me down the path of researching the social and economic ills of social media and the other algorithm-based businesses that we trust so lightly with our data. The movie and book are completely different (as usual) and the book is much, much better (also as usual). When you are tired of plotting your departure with nonfiction, turn to this one for a fun read.
After years of elevating your career with patience, hard work, and organization, I suspect you know what's best for you. If you're considering a big change but are apprehensive about taking the leap, these six books may help guide you.
Good luck finding your happiest place and sticking it to the corporate overlords!
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